Gradually, you will realize that you will encounter many people or things you dislike, but they have nothing to do with you. Let others do as they please; do not waste your energy on things that are not worth it.
If you long for autonomy, first learn to master your own heart. All suffering, illness, and obstacles stem from greed, hatred, attachment, ignorance, and jealousy. The most effective cure is to heal your heart first; otherwise, suffering will be endless.
When a girl is being pursued, her psychology is often complex. She may feel happy but also a sense of trepidation. Faced with a boy who has broken into her peaceful life, she often experiences a contradictory desire to both accept and resist. This is not intentional; she is struggling with herself, fearing being hurt. Do not fear that your initiative will cause resentment; if neither side takes the lead, the connection will eventually fade.
To move past shallowness and ignorance, one should not rely on criticizing others, but on personal growth and reconstruction. Use your mind to think rather than blindly following others. Only wisdom can bring tolerance, and only tolerance can grant you greater freedom of the soul.
Balance in the heart is essential: sometimes the heart should not be too large, just enough to hold yourself; sometimes it should not be too small, enough to embrace others. Sometimes the heart should not be too hot, just enough to warm yourself; sometimes it should not be too cold, enough to warm others. Sometimes the heart should not be too soft, enough to forgive yourself; sometimes it should not be too hard, enough to forgive others. Sometimes the heart should not be too bright, just enough to illuminate yourself; sometimes it should not be too dark, enough to illuminate others.
The strength of a powerful person lies in the depth of their emotions, which can command respect and admiration even from opponents. A humble person is neither arrogant because they see through things, nor fearful because they act with integrity.
We did not come into this world merely to be saddened by its imperfections. We have already cried enough at birth, and no one returns from this life. Therefore, do not waste your time in low spirits. Go believe, go love, go strive, go dream, and go experience; believe that there will always be a tomorrow.
It is necessary to bow your head when needed, but you must lift it at the critical moments. Distinguish between "bowing your head" and "bending your waist." Bending is a form of surrender and flattery that can lead to the loss of dignity, whereas bowing is a matter of maintaining your bottom line. Life will constantly push you forward; stay focused and do not let regret slow your pace. Smile, forgive, forget, and move forward.
