Aside from tears, only time can wash everything away. As time passes, emotions shift and conflicts fade, much like tea being continuously diluted.
To find happiness, one should be neither too clever nor too foolish; this state between intelligence and simplicity is called wisdom. Appreciation—Being too clever makes one guarded, while being too foolish makes one easy to manipulate; neither allows for true sincerity. To be 'clumsily wise' is a rare virtue.
In the art of using people: prioritize sages, then gentlemen, prefer the mediocre over the villain. Appreciation—It is true; a truly bad person is not as scary as a hypocritical one (a villain).
If you no longer wish to love, let go; if you no longer wish to speak, stay silent; if you no longer wish to hate, let it go. Appreciation—Everything shall pass; there is no need to be overly obsessed with everything.
Humans are contradictory creatures; when lacking, we think everything is good, but once we possess something precious, we crave even better. Appreciation—One must not be too greedy, for one cannot have everything. The poor desire wealth, the wealthy desire immortality, but the immortal is plagued by endless worries. The key is to cherish what you currently possess.
All negative emotions and mindsets do nothing to the people or things you are dissatisfied with, but they do immense harm to yourself, your family, and your friends. Appreciation—Be more optimistic; life is short, and sometimes, a single turn leads to the end.
Love without pain is not true love, and marriage without happiness is not true marriage. Appreciation—Love can sometimes be a joke to laugh about, but marriage is a long novel, and happiness is a profound realization.
Do not spend your marriage constantly looking at the flaws in others; remember that every household has its own struggles. Appreciation—Indeed, every family has its own difficult stories to tell.
The benefit of telling the truth is that you do not have to remember what you previously said. Appreciation—Usually, one lie requires many more to explain. Do not live such a heavy life.
Mountain and sea oaths are weighty promises that often embarrass the mountains and the oceans. Appreciation—Do not easily believe in promises; a simple "here it is" is worth more than ten "I will give it to you."
Time is a formidable thing. As it flows, some truths are forever buried, while others are slowly unveiled. Sometimes, truths come to you unexpectedly. Appreciation—Never rely on luck in anything; the truth that "if you do not want others to know, do not do it" remains eternal.
The sweetness or bitterness of coffee depends not on how you stir it, but on whether you add sugar; the pain of a wound depends not on how you forget it, but on whether you have the courage to start anew. Appreciation—True pain is when no one can share your burden; stepping out of the shadows depends solely on yourself.
In life, only 5% is brilliant, 5% is painful, and the remaining 90% is mundane. People are often lured by the 5% of brilliance, endure the 5% of pain, and spend the rest of their lives in the 90% of mundanity. Appreciation—Should life really be controlled by these 10% fluctuations? Let it go; mundanity is the essence of life itself.
True love is not being together because you know how good the other person is, but being unable to leave despite knowing how flawed they are. Appreciation—To love someone is to love their virtues and accept their flaws. No one is perfect; staying together through thick and thin is the highest realm of love.
After being together for a long time, two people become like the left and right hands; even if love fades, they choose to stay because giving up years of companionship requires immense courage. While lovers may appear in life, they are often just passersby; eventually, you will still walk with the person by your side. Appreciation—"To hold your hand and grow old together." It begins as a vow, becomes a responsibility, and eventually turns into a habit.
Some people you see your whole life but ignore them; some you see once and they affect you forever; some joyfully serve you but are neglected; some bring fleeting joy but leave lasting thoughts; some love you for years only to be rejected; some leave an impression with a single expression that becomes eternal longing. This is life. Appreciation—Different people enter your sight at different times and environments; only those who enter at the right time and place can truly enter your heart.
Do not love the wrong person because of loneliness, and do not spend your life lonely because of loving the wrong person. Trust is the key to happiness. Fate is like a book; you might miss it if you flip through carelessly, or weep if you read too deeply. Appreciation—Fate is a mysterious arrangement that cannot be forced. A book with a beautiful cover attracts the eye, but few are worth savoring; those written with blood and sweat may lack decoration, yet their plainness is the essence of life.
Women remember the men who make them laugh, and men remember the women who make them cry; yet women often stay with the men who make them cry, while men stay with the women who make them laugh. Appreciation—Both laughter and tears are expressions of true emotion, but for most, laughter is better than crying.
Why does it take a lifetime to forget someone? Because you never truly tried to forget, but instead kept reminiscing, expecting, and dreaming. Appreciation—For those you cannot and should not forget, let them hold a place in your heart, but do not let them occupy your entire soul.
In the world of love, no one owes anyone anything; it is only a matter of who fails to cherish whom. Appreciation—You should cherish not only the other person but also your own emotions. For those who do not cherish you, do not wait for an apology—simply say goodbye.
A grievance that can be voiced is not truly a grievance, and a lover who can be taken away was never truly yours. Appreciation—If you do not speak of your grievances, you only hurt yourself; if you do not let go of those who do not love you, you will never find those who do.
Distance does not define the closeness of hearts; infrequent calls do not mean a lack of concern, and infrequent meetings do not mean a lack of longing. Cherish these connections even in busy times. Appreciation—Sometimes, a simple, mundane greeting is the truest expression of emotion.
I do not like to show my tears to others; I would rather let them think I am carefree and happy than appear aggrieved and pitiful. Appreciation—I do not wish to bring heaviness to others or dwell in complaints, for sympathy and understanding are not always guaranteed.
When you choose to give up, you must carry more weight, including the regret of what you have abandoned. Appreciation—You will regret giving up when you shouldn't, and you will regret holding on when you should. Everything has a cost; the greatest cost is not money or time, but opportunity.
Some things we cannot understand when we are young, and by the time we understand, we are no longer young. Some things can be compensated, while others are lost forever. Appreciation—Mature through growth, and age through maturity. Follow nature and treat life with kindness.
The greatest love of this life may leave no trace in the next. Cherish the one you love; hold their hand tightly. Do not yearn for a next life that may not exist. Appreciation—Cherish this life sincerely and cherish the person before you.
If someone is perfect in your heart, leaving no room for flaws, making you crave them yet fear approaching them, that is not "love," it is "adoration." Appreciation—For those you adore, you can only be a follower, not a lover.
Loving someone does not require possession. Just as loving Provence does not mean you must walk barefoot through lavender fields. Appreciation—Love is giving and fulfilling, not possessing and taking.
After a breakup, you cannot be friends because you have hurt each other; you cannot be enemies because you once loved deeply. Thus, we become the most familiar of strangers. Appreciation—Spring is an inner state; clouds and water are a state of mind.
Human tears represent kindness, ghost tears represent rebirth, and angel tears represent lost love. Appreciation—True tears come from the heart; the eyes are merely the outlet.
Many things are beautiful because they are distant, inviting us to pursue them; many things are distant because they are beautiful, leaving us only with a sigh. Appreciation—It is not because they are distant that we give up, but because we give up that they become distant.
I love you, but I dare not say it; I fear that if I do, I will perish. I do not fear death, but I fear that after I am gone, no one will love you as I do. Appreciation—I dare not not love you, for I fear no one will love you as I do; I dare not love you, for I fear you will not love me in return.
Remember what should be remembered, forget what should be forgotten, change what can be changed, and accept what cannot be changed. Appreciation—What truly stays in the heart never needs to be recalled because it is never forgotten. Do not try to change others; the only thing you can truly change is yourself.
Aside from tears, only time can wash everything away. As time passes, emotions shift and conflicts fade, much like tea being continuously diluted. Appreciation—Can time truly change everything? True sorrow is permeated throughout a long life and cannot be measured in days.
Some things are beyond our control; we can only control ourselves. Appreciation—To control your environment, you must first control yourself.
I do not know which of my actions are right or wrong, and I will only know when I reach the end of my life. All I can do now is try my best in every matter and wait for the end. Appreciation—Treat everyone with sincerity and do every task with diligence until the very end of life.