In a lifetime, some traits are innate and difficult to change, while others can be chosen and mastered through our own agency. Making the right choices and seizing them is the key to not wasting our lives. Facing the complexities of existence, we must answer four critical "multiple-choice questions" in life.
First, choose the "silhouette of hard work" over the "background of connections." Some people hope to take shortcuts by relying on connections, attempting to climb high by clinging to powerful figures, even sacrificing their dignity and character in the process. However, such "backing" is often fleeting, and a patron can even turn into a dangerous "volcano" that strikes you down. As the proverb goes, "A hero's origin is not questioned"; many successful individuals come from humble beginnings but remain extraordinary through grit rather than "backgrounds." The key is whether you choose struggle or indulgence, and whether you seek the support of others or the strength of your own efforts.
Second, choose to create "life stories" rather than suffering "life accidents." While miracles may be rare, the trajectory of upward struggle is certain. Some people live aimlessly, drifting through life without purpose or direction. A life without progress is not a pursuit of miracles, but a lack of meaning. We should strive to avoid sudden, destructive accidents and instead focus on building a life filled with beautiful, vivid stories. Accidents cannot be replayed, but stories can be cherished in memory. A life with stories is rich in character and emotion, ensuring it never becomes as stagnant as still water.
Third, choose to cultivate "positive influence" over "mere power." Power is a double-edged sword: used well, it brings light to lives; used poorly, it harms both the user and others. Greed for power, without the cultivation of one's heart, easily leads to downfall. As the saying goes, "One may not hold office for a lifetime, but one cannot live without virtue." The influence of morality and character is profound and lasting. Rather than blindly pursuing power, we should focus on how to lead with influence, grounded in moral integrity and personal charisma.
Finally, one must understand what they can possess and what they should not pursue. To live a life of brilliance and value, one must know when to let go of greed and avoid chasing what is not meant for them, while ensuring they do not miss out on what truly matters. Only through this balance can life become truly rich and colorful.
