No matter what you do, you must clearly understand your goals, and not be deceived by the present or seek fleeting pride.
Every encounter awakens an unknown side of yourself, and every hurt can forge growth. Life is not just a brave adventure, but countless falls and rises. Regardless of joy or sorrow, success or failure, gains or losses, once you accept all hurts and gifts, you have returned home; everything is a form of cultivation.
The joys and sorrows of gathering should be sincerely given, while partings occur naturally. No one should force a union from genuine affection. I see this as a sign of awareness and broad-minded growth; there is no regret, only the clear maturity of facing reality.
Humility comes from a deep respect for the universe, recognizing that oneself is merely a speck of dust in the vast world, a drop in the river of history. Only by truly understanding one's smallness in time and space can one feel reverence and maintain humility.