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The third essential mental software is "responsibility."
Responsibility is a subjective psychological state that arises when children recognize their relationship with others.
When a person's actions have a causal effect on the happiness or suffering of others, and they value this connection, a sense of responsibility develops. For example, if a child talks in class and affects other students, a responsible child would refrain from doing so. Responsibility can be divided into internal responsibility and external responsibility. External responsibility includes responsibility toward others, family, and society. Here, the focus is on a child's responsibility toward themselves.
Many parents fail to instill responsibility in their children, resulting in children not being accountable for their own actions, which then forces parents to monitor and enforce behavior. In this scenario, parents effectively take on the responsibility of the child's life, acting like a police officer while the child behaves like a thief, constantly under supervision. If children develop a sense of responsibility for themselves, the burden of parental supervision can be greatly reduced.
第三个精神软件是“责任心”。
责任心是孩子在意识到自己与他人的关系时所产生的一种主观心理状态。
当一个人的行为与他人的快乐或痛苦产生因果联系，并且自己非常重视这种联系时，就会形成责任心。例如，一个孩子在课堂上讲话会影响其他同学，如果他有责任心，就不会随意讲话。责任心分为对内的责任心和对外的责任心。对外的责任心包括对他人、家庭和社会的责任。而这里重点讲的是孩子对自己的责任心。
许多家长没有在孩子心中建立起责任心，使孩子无法对自己的行为负责，结果由家长来监督和强制管理。这种情况下，孩子对人生的责任实际上由家长承担，家长像警察，而孩子像小偷，家长不断在后面监督。如果孩子能建立起对自己负责任的意识，家长的监督负担就可以大大减轻。