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"Respect Others in Success, Respect Yourself in Failure," edited by Yi Fu, published by Seismological Press
Everyone inevitably experiences success and failure. The key lies not in the outcomes themselves, but in the attitude toward them. Thinking rationally about both triumph and disappointment helps to temper subjective feelings. Often, success and failure are largely influenced by external factors. Therefore, one should avoid overestimating oneself in success and underestimating oneself in failure. This approach allows one to remain composed during triumphs and resilient during setbacks.
《成功时看得起别人，失败时看得起自己》，逸夫编著，地震出版社
人难免经历成功和失败，关键不在于结果本身，而在于面对它们时的态度。理性地思考得意与失意，有助于淡化主观感受。许多时候，成功与失败更多受外在因素影响，因此成功时不宜过高评估自己，失败时也不应过低评价自己。如此，才能在得意时保持冷静，在失意时保持坚韧。
"A smile is more beautiful than a frown, and a request is more natural than a scold."
"Dear friend, your attitude will determine your height."
"Be steadfast in difficult days and cautious in prosperous days."
"Life is a grand play; your attitude determines how it responds to you."
"Life need not be perfect but it must be brilliant."