One should not explain too much to women, as explanations can easily lead to mistakes. Life already contains many errors; over-explaining to women is like digging a hole for oneself. Too much explanation affects your mindset, while too little may hinder others’ understanding. No one can fully understand a woman's mind, and only you truly know your own capabilities. Do not live in a state of chaos, and do not make explanations burdensome. There are two types of explanation: one for others to see, and one for self-confirmation. Ultimately, both may only bring helplessness and mistakes.
One should not explain to unreliable friends, as such explanations only waste time, money, and impact your life. Too many so-called friends can drain your resources; too few may affect your present life. Social interactions are like a door; explanation does not guarantee connection. Embracing through explanation is not as valuable as striving for it yourself. Effortful embraces are less effective than quickly adjusting oneself and living better. After reflection, friends are just friends. The harm that comes ultimately results from mistakes in choosing and managing relationships, leading to greater loss and helplessness.
Do not talk excessively about gentlemen; too many words waste time and may divert others’ attention. If a gentleman becomes aware, he may hold grudges, criticize, or influence your mood at every moment. The gaze of a gentleman can silence you, but you must learn to refuse and understand boundaries, learning to leave when necessary. Every departure should allow the other person dignity. Moments are fleeting; do not delay yourself for others, nor miss yourself for your own sake. Offending a gentleman is the greatest harm and helplessness you can bring upon yourself.
