Calmness is a posture of life. It is not a withdrawal from the world, but the leisurely grace of "plucking chrysanthemums by the eastern fence." It is not indifference, but the detachment of "in the future, there will be nothing, where can dust settle?" Calmness is unrelated to age; it is often bound to experience, and the more one has seen of the world, the deeper the understanding.
Only when you learn to love yourself sincerely can you love others sincerely. If you do not cherish yourself, others will not love you. For those in marriage, this is especially important: treating a partner too well does not guarantee appreciation; only by making yourself more valuable and charming will they love you more.
If a person's desires are too many or too great, they will age very quickly. Desire is the greatest source of human suffering.
In life, a misstep can be corrected, but a slip of the tongue may be irreparable.
Rather than saying others cause you pain, it is better to say your own self-cultivation is insufficient.
Filial piety is the foremost of all virtues. For those without filial piety, any so-called kindness is merely a castle in the air, illusory and purely formal. Filial piety is a fleeting sentiment and a happiness that cannot be revisited once missed. Do not let your filial piety come too late, and do not leave behind the sorrow and regret of "when the child wishes to provide, the parents are no longer there."
When others err, there is often a fault within oneself.