One should respond positively to the goodwill shown by others, otherwise it is not in accordance with etiquette. However, in real life, this etiquette is often misunderstood. For example, some people send burdensome gifts at weddings and funerals to save face; some act out of loyalty and excessively intervene to help others, eventually breaking the law; even worse, some disguise transactions of power, money, or influence under the pretense of "reciprocal etiquette." All these cases stem from misunderstanding or deliberate distortion of "etiquette."
In interpersonal exchanges, etiquette focuses on communicating feelings and conveying blessings, as the saying goes: "A small gift sent from afar carries deep sentiment."
As the saying goes, "A good memory is not as reliable as taking notes." Reading and writing help memory, grasp key points and difficulties in texts, accumulate materials and writing resources, expand knowledge, and enhance analytical and comprehensive abilities.
To achieve great success, sometimes details must be set aside, even those that contradict common sense, and handled flexibly. Wise leaders in adversity do not rigidly follow commands but act flexibly, seizing initiative to "control others without being controlled."
When a matter is still in its nascent stage, it is called an "opportunity" (ji). When an opportunity is not obvious, it is difficult to detect. Seizing the opportunity and taking action is called "momentum" (shi). Momentum, if not developed to its peak, does not end automatically. Adapting to the times requires accurate judgment of situations, aligning actions with reality, adjusting according to circumstances, and ultimately ensuring an advantageous position and success.
Tolerance has the power to influence others. When you criticize someone, no matter how reasonable, they may feel uncomfortable; but by treating others with tolerance, they are more likely to strive in the direction you hope for.
Only when the mind is clear can the eyes of love shine brightly. If the mind is not clear, no matter how bright the eyes, what is seen is merely a dull, monotonous, and static world.
