Discussing happiness, value, and love is often an ambiguous topic, and everyone holds their own views.
There is a story where two people meet God, who tells them that only one can survive while the other must die. They decide to settle it with Rock-Paper-Scissors. One man says to his deceased brother, "We agreed on scissors, but you played rock." Some claim that those who wish to lose win a chance at life through kindness, leading to the saying, "If you intend to lose, you cannot."
However, if we seek the truth, the reality may be different. In my view, the survivor has already lost. Although he sincerely intended to leave the chance of life to his brother, he ultimately failed to fulfill his own wish. Therefore, he lost.
In reality, defining success or failure solely through "winning and losing" is inappropriate; there is often no clear boundary between the two. Wisdom often lies between these two extremes. Like the man in the story, he won life and praise, but lost his original intent. A person who views life and death so lightly is likely not concerned with winning or losing. Instead, we should seek the sparks of wisdom between these two states. Zhou Guoping describes this eloquently:
A young girl once confided in me about her heartbreak. She had given much to her partner, yet they left her to marry someone else. She struggled to understand why and wanted an explanation. I could only advise her to learn to let go. In this emotional struggle, seeking truth only deepens the sense of loss. To bid farewell sincerely and wish the other person happiness is the wisest path. By losing a romance, one might gain in character. Perhaps this heartbreak is merely a collision of two grains of sand in the ocean of life; perhaps, by continuing the journey, she will eventually become a pearl in the embrace of an oyster.
Winning is certainly joyful, but to treat "losing" with the same kindness and care as one's own child is a state of serene transcendence. Hope will always rise with the sun over the horizon of life.
