The vines of the sponge gourd and the stems of the pea plant often grow intertwined. A child, driven by curiosity, might insist on separating them to uncover the truth, while an adult might stop them, arguing that the purpose of vegetables is simply to be eaten. This is not merely a discussion about the difference in mindset between children and adults, but a way to illustrate the tension between "form" and "substance." In a sense, the child's obsession with "distinguishing" can be seen as a pursuit of form, while the adult's focus on "consuming" points toward substance. Upon deep reflection, we realize that in the midst of the mundane necessities of daily life, form is often secondary; it is substance that constitutes the essence of all things.
In the 1920s, the Indian poet Tagore visited China, accompanied by Xu Zhimo and Lin Huiyin. Newspapers of that era described them beautifully: Lin Huiyin possessed the charm of peach blossoms, Tagore carried the ethereal aura of a sage, and the slender Xu Zhimo completed the scene like pine, bamboo, and plum blossoms—a masterpiece of elegance. However, upon closer reflection, one realizes that modern society is increasingly lacking this "trio" of virtues. This spirit encompasses the integrity of a gentleman whose word is his bond, the transcendence of preferring character over comfort, and the refined, scholarly grace of a cultivated soul. Without these internal qualities, any attempt to mimic elegance becomes mere superficial pretension, causing one to fall into the trap of being a mere conventional person.