Embrace Fate: First, one must understand that everything in this world is in a constant state of flux driven by the laws of cause and effect. Love, hate, ups and downs, and fame or disgrace are never permanent; there is no need to cling to them. Joy and sorrow arise from conditions. Instead of experiencing extreme highs and lows over outcomes, it is better to carefully choose between good and evil during the process. Embracing fate means doing your utmost while remaining calm about gains and losses.
Consider this analogy: if you were penniless, someone's insults might make you furious; however, if you were a billionaire, you might simply laugh it off. It is because you share the same frequency or magnetic field that you cannot endure it. The reason others' words can spark anger in you is that you happen to be the kindling. When emotions are swayed by external circumstances, it is because there is something combustible within our hearts.
Finding a loved one to be near-perfect can be a dangerous thing. It is either because they hide their flaws too well, or because you have idealized them in your heart. Both scenarios can leave you wounded in love. There are no perfect lovers or perfect love; there are only two imperfect people coming together to write a complete life story.
Learn to forget. Life is full of frustrations. To find happiness, you must relieve stress, and the best way to do so is to learn how to let go. Life requires the courage to grasp things, but sometimes, the ability to let go is even more important. Spring brings flowers, autumn brings moonlight, summer brings cool breezes, and winter brings snow. If no idle matters weigh on the heart, it is a wonderful time to live.