Everyone carries traumas from their original family and spends a lifetime trying to heal.
A 'reaction' is changing oneself based on others' opinions and actions, often sacrificing one's own feelings to please them; an 'response' is following the voice of your heart and prioritizing your own feelings. This is not selfishness, but being kind to yourself.
We should view parental responsibility rationally, without holding grudges or blaming them for the pain they may have caused. Facing past painful experiences is a way of taking responsibility for your own mental health. Allow your emotions to be expressed and fluctuate; release the suppression, and only then can you achieve true spiritual healing and growth.
If I could, I would say to my parents, 'Your parenting style was very disappointing to me.'
There should be ample communication and emotional sharing between parents and children. When children learn to experience, understand, and express the feelings of others, they can share their own experiences, which helps alleviate feelings of loneliness and helplessness.
Practice proves that your original family is not the fundamental factor that limits you. The core lies in whether you have the will to change, and whether you have put in more effort than others to achieve that change.
Is it true that 'spare the rod and spoil the child'? Is corporal punishment truly effective?
Parents are the very first mentors in a child's life, shaping their every word and action.
To help a child reach the peak of intelligence, debate is a crucial path. — Narcissus
Family should be a sanctuary of love, joy, and laughter. — Hisashi Kimura, *Early Education and Genius*
Family is a social invention whose task is to transform biological beings into social beings. — Good
Home is the only place in the world that hides human flaws and failures, while simultaneously embracing sweet love. — George Bernard Shaw
A mother's thread makes a wanderer's clothes. Who says a blade of grass can repay the warmth of the spring sun? — Meng Jiao
Gentle language is indispensable in the home of a kind person. — *Manusmriti*
Strict governance in the family brings harmony; forbearance in the village brings peace. — Wang Yu, *Jiaochuang Riji*
Brothers should love and be friendly; siblings should respect and be obedient. — *Zuo Zhuan*
A family with great wealth is not as good as a family that produces a strong individual. — Qian Daxin, *Heng Yan Lu*
Strictness within leniency ensures a family's lasting peace. — Lü Desheng, *Xiao Er Yu*
A mother's embrace is made of love; how can a child sleep there without feeling sweetness? — Victor Hugo
Aesthetic education works alongside intellectual education to achieve the fulfillment of moral education. — Cai Yuanpei
