If you yearn for true autonomy, the first step is learning to master your own mind. All suffering, illness, and obstacles often stem from greed, hatred, attachment, ignorance, and jealousy. The most effective healing is to cure the heart; otherwise, pain will be endless.
Admire cherry blossoms in spring, flowers in summer, the full moon in autumn, and the first snow in winter. Mood creates the landscape. The most beautiful scenery is actually your state of mind. Each season has its unique beauty, and the key is the mindset with which you view this world.
Love is not a battle of life and death, but a form of habit. When a woman becomes accustomed to a man's snoring, moving from unfamiliarity to habit, to the point where she cannot sleep without it, that is love. When a man tolerates a woman's caprice, coquetry, and even unreasonable tantrums, that is also love. Love happens when one person is willing to change and compromise for another. The degree of compromise you offer your lover often equals the depth of your love.
There are always people who solve a math problem while cutting fruit, memorize a word while adjusting a game angle, read a chapter of a textbook during a gaming match, listen to an audio clip during casual chat, or reflect on the day's gains and losses before sleep. There are always people more diligent and efficient than you. Will you still waste your time?
Conceal some of your own merits, tolerate some of others' flaws. Forget some past grievances, and firmly remember past kindnesses. Do not show disdain when you perceive hypocrisy, and do not speak of grievances when you are treated unfairly. Do not boast when giving kindness, and never forget when receiving help. If you wish to be understood, try to understand others first. If you wish to be respected, respect others first.
Where there is hope, there is also disappointment. Growing up is learning to accept the countless small disappointments in life, which are directed at others and ourselves alike. No matter the circumstances, let these minor disappointments shatter the hope in your heart. Do not be too harsh with yourself, nor with the person who loves you deeply, for they are, like you, just an ordinary human.
Missing someone does not necessarily require hearing their voice. Once you hear it, everything might change differently. Imaginations are often slightly more beautiful than reality; the person in your thoughts is often warmer than the reality. Longing seems distant, but sometimes it is closer to the heart than reality itself.
