Marriage is a major matter and no trivial game. It requires not only love but also the calmness and rationality of both parties.
Actually, restraint is quite simple. When you are among passionate fans facing sudden changes on the field, not joining in the commotion, not whistling, and not throwing bottles is a form of restraint. In a democratic meeting, facing various opinions, criticisms, or even groundless accusations, keeping your eyes calm and eyebrows relaxed, accepting criticism with the attitude of 'if there is a fault, correct it; if there is none, be more cautious,' is a kind of restraint. At home, facing your spouse's exaggeration or endless nagging without losing your temper, still smiling while serving meals and checking your children's homework, this understanding and patience is restraint. If someone steps on your foot and you smile tolerantly at them; if you fail to get the senior professional title you applied for again but still work diligently without complaining... all these are forms of restraint.
What is 'goodness'? 'Goodness' refers to excellent virtues such as honesty, kindness, generosity, and selflessness. What is 'evil'? 'Evil' refers to vices such as hypocrisy, malice, pettiness, hostility, and selfishness. People with excellent virtues, in the process of giving love and facilitating others, will receive more goodwill, sympathy, and support in return. On the other hand, people with bad characters often criticize, suspect, and speak ill of others. When they encounter difficulties, they not only fail to receive understanding and help, but their troubles become a source of satisfaction for others.
Whether it is missing a word or losing people's trust, neither is a pleasant thing. Therefore, some consider speaking the most difficult aspect of modern social interaction. However, our communication inevitably relies on language, and perhaps speaking is as difficult as being a good person. Do your own duty well, do not be overly clever, and do not use your presumptuous assumptions to interpret others' minds. Otherwise, losing people's trust is far more terrifying than missing a word.
