It is not a problem if life does not go as planned or if social interactions are frustrating. What matters is whether we have a clearer understanding of this imperfect reality. The depth of this understanding will determine whether a person becomes listless and regresses, or stands tall and moves forward.
Life is never as enduringly rich as in great works of art, nor as turbulent as in historical biographies. For ordinary individuals, life is merely a gentle forgetting—each second day forgets the first, the third forgets the second... Until we forget every single day, we will realize that what remains in our memory are only those unforgettable scenes. By then, it no longer matters which specific day it was.
Carina Lau once spoke about women's age like this: "People in Asia are more concerned about getting old. I grew up in England and lived in Paris for ten years, where people do not hold this kind of view. Why must being young and wrinkle-free be the definition of beauty? One does not have to be beautiful; beauty is not everything, and it is a waste of life. True happiness in life is beauty plus flavor, plus joy, plus other elements."
"In war, a soldier placed in a desperate situation will fight with renewed vigor." This principle is easy to understand. If we drive the enemy to a dead end, leaving them with no hope, they will instead throw away their cooking pots and sink their boats, fighting to the death. At that moment, every enemy is a fierce tiger, fighting with their backs to the river. It becomes much harder for us to win the battle! Even if we ultimately win, the cost paid will be enormous, yielding no real benefit.
Entering society is entering a new environment where you meet new people. Your entire past is a blank sheet of paper to them. This is your best opportunity to reshape your image. Correct your previous flaws; every time you enter a new environment, you should appear with a fresh, new identity.
