When a girl is being pursued, her inner state is often complex. She may feel happy, yet also a sense of anxiety. Toward the boy who has interrupted her peaceful life, she displays a contradictory attitude of resistance and welcome, which is not intentional. Do not think she is testing you; in fact, she is struggling with her own fear of being hurt. Do not worry that your initiative will cause her repulsion. If you are not proactive, she will not be either, and the connection may gradually fade in silence.
No one can truly escape loneliness. Your thoughts and experiences—you are both the director and the sole audience. Even with a companion by your side through life, loneliness remains an inescapable companion. Many behaviors in the world aimed at seeking emotional solace, such as ambiguity, infatuation, or self-sacrificing devotion, are often born of loneliness. If one can be at peace with solitude, listen to the voice of the soul, persist in self and harbor aspirations, one can find the true self and achieve inner tranquility.
Only through softness can we remain sensitive; only through softness can we be inclusive; only through softness can we be refined; and only through softness can we transcend the ego, even embracing our own wounds when we are hurt.
When facing suffering, we may feel profound pain and even the urge to give up on life. Yet, we will endure. No matter how tearful, helpless, and bewildered we are at the beginning, time is the ultimate remedy for all hidden wounds.
In this world, no one can live entirely according to their own will, as there are too many helplessnesses and unknowns, and we are not the center of the universe. Some things are already beside us without needing to be sought, while others are unattainable no matter how hard we try to keep them. What belongs to us and what does not—everything must be accepted calmly, without force or excessive attachment. Therefore, we should learn to make the best of every situation. Ultimately, we will realize that our previous stubbornness, viewed from today's perspective, was nothing more than a farce in the eyes of others.
