只有兼具爱与恨，人才能体验真正真实的生活。

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A fairy cave is not a cave; a Buddha gate is not a gate; a Zen realm is the ultimate realm.

The first person gets the oyster, while the second person gets only the shell.

When will we Chinese change our slogan to "Competition First, Friendship Second"? That would be the time we truly progress.

Only with both love and hate can one experience a truly authentic life.

Ordinary people can seek the balance of "keeping oneself pure in obscurity, and benefiting the world in power" in their lives, savoring the joy of success. For example, in work, everyone should do their job well. When one's ability is small, doing one's own work well without adding trouble to others is a form of helping. When one is capable, one should actively help others solve problems.

Feigning knowledge is a form of ignorance that hinders the expansion of one's social circle. Such people are rarely welcome in society. This pretentious and self-important approach to life can ruin nascent endeavors, causing others to lose interest in and trust for you.

If you wish to make good friends, you must first become a good friend in the eyes of others. In social interactions, learn to listen attentively, empathize, be strict with yourself but lenient with others, and help genuinely without seeking rewards. Offer sincere criticism of a friend's shortcomings, express your views directly on differing opinions, avoid flattery in their presence, and refrain from speaking ill of them behind their backs.