我们所说的孤独，不过是你面对的人，他的或她的感情与你自己的感情，不在同一个频率上。

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Richard Yates once said: "I think What we call loneliness is simply that the person you are facing, his or her emotions and your own emotions, are not on the same frequency."

Gu Man wrote in My Sunshine: "A single smile defeats a lifetime, a single tear settles a debt. One person blooms, the other fades. All these years, from start to finish, no one has ever asked."

Susan Sontag pointed out: "The most charming aspect of a masculine man lies in his feminine touches; and the most charming aspect of a gentle woman lies in her masculine undertones."

Simone de Beauvoir envisioned in The Second Sex: "One day, perhaps, women will be able to love with their 'strength' rather than their 'weakness,' not by escaping themselves, but by finding themselves; not by self-sacrifice, but by self-affirmation. At that time, love will be the same for her and for him, becoming a source of life rather than a fatal danger."

Zhou Guoping explained in On Happiness: "To attain substantial happiness, one must be neither too clever nor too foolish. People call this state, somewhere between cleverness and foolishness, the wisdom of life."

M. John Harrison reflected in The English Patient: "For what you cannot have, you only escape or divert your attention. If you fail in one thing, you take refuge in another; nothing can change you. Standing before you, you are sometimes so indifferent, sometimes so silent, as if revealing even a bit of your personality would be the greatest betrayal of yourself. I know I cannot change you, so I leave you."