If you are an exceptionally intelligent person, you should pay even more attention to protecting yourself. Do not display your intelligence and talent everywhere; instead, try to appear somewhat ignorant, even less capable than those around you. This allows them to gain a sense of superiority and immerse themselves in their own achievements. You only need to be a bit fuzzy about trivial matters while staying alert to major issues. Although you may not care about immediate gains or losses, this approach allows you to preserve your status, remain invincible, and ultimately achieve success. Both offense and defense aim for victory. If one only knows how to attack without defending, or only defends without attacking, it not only separates the two concepts but also divides their responsibilities. Even if one recites the military strategies of Sun Wu and Wu Qi, if one does not internally contemplate the exquisite balance of perfecting both offense and defense, how can victory be achieved? This type of endurance is not submission, nor is it weakness; rather, it is seeking progress through retreat. Even when in the right, conceding three parts is the wisest choice in dealing with people. The pottery jar replied, "Thank you for your good intentions, aluminum jar, but being close to you is exactly what I do not want to do. If you could stay a bit further away, I would drift along safely and peacefully. If I were to bump into you, you would shatter me to pieces!" The aluminum jar intended to take care of the pottery jar but failed to realize that it was, in fact, the biggest threat to the pottery jar. This shows that love can be both a driving force and a burden. Love that becomes a burden not only fails to bring joy to the recipient but also brings pain and danger. We call for "Long live understanding," but first, we must understand others' "misunderstanding." It is relatively easy to practice "respect for similarity," but the most difficult aspect is "respect for differences." This means that even when others are different from me, I still respect and accept all of them, appreciating such differences. If friends or relatives can achieve this, ceasing to force "sameness" or "consistency," it will be more conducive to the psychological development of each individual and help reach the psychological stage of "ego identity."
Life is also like riding a train. The scenery in the past was so beautiful that you lingered and were reluctant to let go, but you always need to move forward, to leave. Then you tell yourself, "It's okay, I will definitely come back to see it again in the future." But In reality, you will often never go back. The passing time, the receding scenery, and the people encountered are all ultimately drifting further and further apart.
