Do not assume that passion, wildness, and happiness in a relationship define love; at best, it is merely the initial form of love. True love persists without abandonment even amidst the plainness and monotony of daily life. The intensity of current passion does not guarantee future depth of love; it often reflects past loneliness. Some forms of love are demonstrated by persistence in the mundane details of life and tolerance during intense conflicts.
When a flock of geese rests, one goose serves as a sentry, known as the 'Geese Guardian,' a duty that rotates among them. At the slightest movement, it cries out to warn the flock. A hunter tried to capture them several times but failed. Eventually, he devised a plan: he rushed toward the flock and hid immediately after the sentinel gave the alarm. After several false alarms, the other geese, finding no threat, blamed the sentinel and began pecking at it in anger. The sentinel, in despair, remained silent when the hunter approached again, resulting in more than half the flock being killed or injured. — The world is much the same: the loyal are misunderstood, and the misunderstood often give up on their loyalty.
Each person's self is composed of three 'I's': the self in one's own eyes, the self in others' eyes, and the self one wishes to present to others. If the differences and conflicts among these three 'I's are significant, the resulting inner anxiety and feelings of inferiority will be greater, as will the impulse to transcend. The difference in how this transcendence is achieved determines the differences in personality.
Yesterday has passed, and tomorrow has not yet arrived; today is real. Why lose your present mood to painful regrets? Occasional venting through complaint is necessary, but endless complaining only adds to anxiety and displays one's inability to cope. Complaining is a fatal negative mindset; if it becomes a habit, life will become gloomy, not only destroying one's own peace of mind but also dragging others down with it.
