You must be firm and fearless. You must believe that your suffering is like water flowing past. Your days in this world shall be brighter than noon; though there may be darkness, it shall be like the morning.
Be positive, optimistic, open-minded, composed, simple, tolerant, and kind.
If you can let everything go as it may, you are the free person in this world. Peace and joy exist within the brightness of one's nature. Realizing this intrinsic nature leads to a state where life is peaceful and death is peaceful.
Regarding marriage: A broken pot finds its own lid; everyone is loved by their match. If you once insisted on marrying him, there must have been a reason. Now, close one eye to overlook his intolerable flaws, and open the other to see the few remaining, perhaps pitiful, shining points. No one is perfect.
Many things do not yield immediate results; they require patience and perseverance. As long as you are willing to pay the price of persistence, you will eventually enjoy the sweetness.
Be composed, non-attached, calm, and unagitated. Balance arises from yin and yang; the harmony of yin and yang gives birth to all things. Evolution occurs in dynamics, and balance emerges within evolution. Tranquility and delight ripple from the heart like a lake. Gentle ripples create sparkling waves. A tranquil mind gives birth to wisdom. A dream is like a kite flying in the sky; if you keep looking up at the kite, it will fly further and further away.