46. If you are not excellent, connections are worthless; they are attracted, not pursued. Only through equal exchange can reasonable help be obtained. It sounds cold, but it is the truth. If your love cannot bring happiness or penetrate the other person's life, the best love is to step back; if they do not love you, the best tenderness is to not disturb them.
47. Life is activity, not just breathing.
48. Life is like a stringed instrument; it should be neither too tight nor too loose.
49. Not appearing and not disturbing is my ultimate way of loving you.
50. The moment a thought flickers in the mind, countless demons begin to smile.
51. Milarepa said: "Relinquishing anger brings peace; abandoning pride and jealousy brings peace. Resting equally in all phenomena brings peace; observing the mind with the mind brings such peace. In the peacefulness of the Dharmadhatu of non-dual wisdom, the natural peace of one's true nature, there is much joy for me, and I seek no worldly pleasures!"
52. The "Recordings of Zen Master Dahui Pujue" warns: "There are those who read scriptures, chant, and repent in the morning, yet indulge in verbal abuse in the evening, only to perform Buddhist rituals and repentance again the next day. They do this year after year as a routine. Little do they know that the Sanskrit 'Chama' refers to repentance—the breaking of the continuity of the mind. Once broken, it never continues; once repented, the transgression is truly undone."
53. Just as a magnet attracts iron filings, passion attracts people and transforms your surroundings.
54. Humility makes one advanced. Though it is a cliché, it holds great truth. Modesty, when balanced, elevates one's abilities, but excessive humility can lead to disappointment.
55. Constant self-restraint is not always wise, as it can lead to a meaningless depletion of oneself.
56. Water is silent, yet where the wind passes, it leaves ripples as a sign.
57. Mindset determines everything. To live happily, one must first find inner peace. True peace comes not from fulfilling every desire—for the sea of desire is boundless—but from equanimity. A person with no excessive desires is strong; a calm heart that does not weigh gains and losses and practices tolerance will naturally win tranquility. A peaceful and happy life is exchanged with a peaceful heart.
58. A person's inner world is like a mirror, reflecting not only others but also oneself. Do not add complexity to life with negativity; if you remain positive, life becomes broader.
59. Do not think you are the only one suffering or uniquely special; everyone is the same, some simply endure more strongly or express it differently. Remember, the world continues to run without you. The first youth is a gift from God; the second youth is earned through your own efforts. Do not spend your time in self-pity; clench your hands and tell yourself: I still have room to strive.
60. Through mist and rain, one tells of life; through non-mist and non-rain, one observes life. We often write our lives as misty and blurred, but in reality, it is all just the complexity of the mind making the world appear hazy. Life is inherently clean and straightforward. When the dust within our hearts settles, the world we see remains as it was: blue skies, green mountains, and clear waters.